Our Premarital Counselor was a Dominatrix

It is funny because it was after our first time at Fetish Con in a BDSM 101 Course taught by Mistress Indigo, that we got engaged. She was able to watch us interact and told us exactly what we do in communication and how to better talk to each other. Not just in BDSM, in life. She called me out that when the situation or topic gets uncomfortable I laugh or make jokes to ease the tension. She nailed my husband on his habit of shutting down emotionally when it got serious. After that class we went to the car in the parking garage and had one of the most serious talks of our lives. We had been dating for a while, I had given my virginity to this man, I was 33 at the time – I grew up in a strict Christian household, I was waiting for “the one” – so if he did not see a forever in this relationship it was better for us to end it now than to continue to completely give my heart to him. We cried, we talked, cried some more, and made the decision that we were both in this as a long-term commitment.

Then fireworks happened! No not the fireworks of romance in our hearts – although we did get it on in the backseat of the parking garage right after. But outside over looking Tampa Bay a fireworks display happened. For us it was a sign from God, if He can use rainbows – fireworks represented the promise that He was with us.

So we learned that even though it was a BDSM convention you learn about all aspects of life. We got life changing advice from Mistress Indigo (who is actually not only a dominatrix she is also a life coach). We attended to take some beginners classes, buy some toys, see some beautiful sexy people, and left changed as individuals and as a couple. The best premarital counselling crash course found at a Fetish Con- who would have ever guessed – and we are forever grateful.